November 4-6, 2011

 
 
When we are young we are told how important it is to choose friends well. Somewhere in between school, fatherhood, work, and unexpected life battles we leave those friends behind. Perhaps life’s battles convince us that friendship is not  that important, but the truth is the stakes have never been higher.
 
On November 4th through the 6th, we are going on a journey to reawaken those friendships from the past and to forge new ones that are able to carry us toward God's plan for our lives. Read more to register.
 
This summit will include:  Session speakers:
   
- Time with God      - Roger Nix
- A beautiful place    - Danny Kittinger
- Challenge Course   - Gyle Smith
- Horse Back Riding    - Mike Eddins
- Skeet Shooting   - Shea Fite
                                                                       
 
Pick up dinner on the way. Summit begins 7pm                                                                          Ages: 15+
   
New Life Ranch,160 New Life Ranch Drive, Colcord, OK 74338 (918) 422-5506              (Directions)
 
Additional questions, email contact Chris Argabright or Matt Cooperrider at New Life Ranch.
 

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Enclose your cash or check and bringing it with.  You can mail or drop it by Believer's Church at 4705 S. Memorial Drive, Tulsa OK 741145. Make checks payable to Believer's Church.

"Have they burned Ziklag yet?"

By John Yocum

Ancient site of Ziklag from the East

The Lord asked me this question one morning.  Have they burned Ziklag yet?

David's lowest point came when they burned Ziklag. He'd finally fled Israel and defected to the Philistines, the ones of whom he had "slain his tens of thousands." Living under the watchful eye of his mortal enemies, he was promoted to become Achish's personal bodyguard. What a humiliation: to be the bodyguard of your sworn enemy!

But it got worse. When the Philistines went to battle, Achish decided to take him along as a sort of "secret weapon." Hey, he could kill Philistines pretty efficiently, right? Why couldn't he do the same to Israelites?

But Achish didn't get very far; David made the other commanders too nervous. So, reluctantly, Achish sent him home.

Exiled to the land of his enemies and then humiliated in front of them, he and his men trudged back the long dusty path to Ziklag, their home away from home.

Bryan Craig to speak at The Narrows Friday, November 19th, 6:30am

The purpose of the Narrows is to be an "on-ramp" for guys like you and me to be discipled.  Why else would I drag myself out of bed early on a Friday morning?  It has to be big in order for any of us to make that kind of sacrafice and it always pays good returns. 
 

I met Bryan several months ago upon several recommendations by good men in our city.  Bryan has made a practice of helping guys like you and I get on a walk with Jesus that is based in reality and actually converts into being a better father, businessman, husband and friend.  He is about all that The Narrows is about- apprenticing with Jesus in a way that effects every area of our lives.

Bryan Craig lives in Tulsa, OK with his wife, Missy, and their 4 daughters. He owns a small business, which allows him the freedom to pursue his passions of men’s ministry and writing. He is on the leadership team of an international ministry called Influencers (www.influencers.org), which is a discipleship ministry to take men into an intimate, abiding relationship with Christ. He has taken the Influencer’s discipleship process to his network of men in Tulsa, which he calls Tulsa Men of Christ, and has seen hundreds of men find new lives as disciples of Christ.

Rich Correll to speak at The Narrows, October 22, 6:30am

Rich Correll is the president and founder of Church Planters Training International (CPTI) in Grand Rapids, MI. The majority of his time over the past few decades has been spent planting churches and mentoring emerging pastors/leaders.

He grew up in Pennsylvania, like many hard working folks in the Northeast. After obtaining his degree at Penn State University, he served in Vietnam as a captain giving oversight to a tank company where he nearly lost his life for our country. Upon he returning home from the war, Rich worked at Bethleham Steel eventually becoming an executive.   Rich met Jesus through some well orchestrated events and has much to share regarding his journey.

He spent some time after his years of corporate experience working for John Guest Ministries before launching CPTI. He has been personally involved in planting 1,800 churches in Ukraine. Rich is also establishing drug rehab clinics in Ukraine. 

The American Dream

The American Dream by Shea Fite, The Narrows, September 25th, 2010
What does it mean to be an American? It is a question that should haunt us. We live in a land that values pluralism to the point of losing our identity. I have been thinking a lot about our national identity lately. 
This weekend, I cleaned up the yard and I cleaned out the garage. You got it. I spent a whole lot of time and energy shuffling things around the garage. You know those things that you bought at Wal-Mart or Home Depot. It seemed like a perfectly good idea at the time. In the back of my head I told myself that if I buy this thing my life will be easier and I will be happier for it. The justification is subtle. If only I were more organized, then I could spend more time with my family, or perhaps I would be more productive. Whatever, now I just move the stuff from one side of the garage to the other thinking “I can’t throw this away I might need it one day.” Well, this weekend I had enough. I backed up my truck to the garage and began chunking useless things into the back. I couldn’t help but think about how wasteful I was being. It was liberating to throw away that broken sub-woofer and the rusty old bike. 
So this brings me to a core founding quote from Thomas Jefferson. It used to be ingrained into every American citizen school age and older. 

On the Ground in a Crisis Zone

 
Mitch Duininck, M.D.,(Bio) is coming to speak this Friday, August 27th at the Narrows.  We are excited because he is just three weeks out from entering into the warzone. (He could use your prayers.)  Afghanistan is his next target.  It still blows my mind the calibur of men coming to the Narrows to share their life experiences.  If you have never been don't hesitate to make this your first.
 
To learn more about what Mitch is passionate about read below.
 

Family Medicine Training Crucial in Responding to Haiti Disaster, Say FPs
By Barbara Bein
2/1/2010
 
 
In His Image Family Medicine Residency physicians Mark Crouch, M.D., left, and Sujan Joshi, M.D., treat patients at the Salvation Army clinic in Port-au-Prince, Haiti. Mark Crouch, M.D., a first-year resident at the In His Image Family Medicine Residency in Tulsa, Okla., is at the beginning of his family medicine career. Douglas McKeag, M.D., the retired chair of the Indiana University School of Medicine's Department of Family Medicine in Indianapolis, is at a turning point in his long career. Yet, despite these differences, the two share a common heritage and a mutual calling.
 
In His Image Family Medicine Residency physicians Mark Crouch, M.D., left, and Sujan Joshi, M.D., treat patients at the Salvation Army clinic in Port-au-Prince, Haiti. Recently returned from separate medical service experiences in earthquake-shattered Haiti, both of these family physicians said their broad-based training -- though gained decades apart -- equipped them well to care for the many injured Haitian people they encountered during their trips.
 
According to Mitch Duininck, M.D., program director at In His Image, family medicine training is distinguished both by its wide range of knowledge and skills and by its focus on caring for people of every age in the context of their families and communities. In a disaster situation, he told AAFP News Now, family physicians are well able to treat fractures,
 
 

I'd rather have a bloody lip and bruised knuckles.

Teddy Roosevelt said it best.  Let it pulse through your veins.

"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."

T. Roosevelt

Dave Jewitt coming to the Narrows Friday July 30th 6:30am

Dave has a B.S. in Industrial Management from the University of Richmond and spent 25 years in the aerospace industry with three different companies negotiating large contracts for computer technology and aircraft components. He has led numerous projects, managed departments, and helped organizations be more effective and efficient. Both inside and outside the workplace, Dave has consistently functioned as a mentor and guide for hundreds of individuals over the past 30+ years.

A major element of his mentoring has been in the areas of career transition, discovering one’s particular purpose in life, and helping them launch into a new era of greater impact for Christ.

Dave believe's the most rewarding aspects of being a mentor is seeing people become more effective in all areas of life, then seeing them reproduce their lives in the lives of others. While Dave has been approached about writing a book, giving seminars around the country, and marketing his ideas on a broad scale, his heart is to impact individuals deeply, one at a time, over a long period of time, through different stages of life, and to train coaches/mentors in guiding others to their One Degree. 

Over the past 10 years, the focus of Dave’s mentoring has been in helping busy, productive, and impacting people to:

* get a better handle on their schedule, career, roles as a spouse/parent, and their civic/church activity
* gain some wisdom, guidance, and perspective for the difficult aspects of the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s
* get some life-tools that would significantly improve their relationships, personal effectiveness, and        overall decision-making
* learn how to become much more impacting as leaders
 

Dave lives in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma with his wife and two teenage sons.

Learn more about Your One Degree at http://www.youronedegree.com .

Retribution

By Shea Fite, The Narrows, July 13th 2010
 

ret•ri•bu•tion  /ËŒretrəˈbyoÍžSHÉ™n/

Noun: Punishment that is considered to be morally right and fully deserved.

 
John Eldredge talks a lot about being wounded. In fact he brought clarity to an idea that psychologists wore completely out as they dug around in our pasts trying connect the dots about why we behave the way we do. They could tell there was something about this idea that when we bump up next to flesh and blood, it’s going to hurt. Raise your hand if you have ever been bruised by something a parent, a spouse or sibling said or if you have ever been hurt, frustrated or angered by someone close to you. Have you ever done something in response to an event that you later regretted? And why is it that those closest to you are the ones that can inflict the most pain on you?
 
Ever since Adam took a juicy bite out of some red delicious knowledge of good and evil, wounding and being wounded has been a fact of life. The whole situation reminds me of the word “justice”. Most of the time when I inflict serious pain on another, it is born out of a sense of justice. Somebody hurt me so I can hurt them back. It is in the defense of myself that I feel the freedom to cut deeper than normal. Retribution is a most powerful motivator of my more heinous words.
 
So what is at the core of all this hurting and being hurt? Why is it that our closest walks with others tend to spiral downward into these ugly, painful dialogues that are sometimes so wrought with emotions and cutting tones that we look to the right or left hoping that others might not overhear. It is, I believe, a state that swirls among our most precious relationships.
 

Clark Millspaugh telling his story

 
The Narrows is Friday Morning, May 28th at 6:30am
Nordaggio's Coffee 81st and Lewis, The Plaza Shopping Center
 

I can't tell you how excited I am to see Clark coming to The Narrows.  This guy is rich with wisdom and energy.  He is a man of action and his energy is contagious.  I met Clark two years ago at a Wild at Heart Expedition.  Years ago he played an important role in gatherings his closest buddies together to enjoy a trip to Colorado and go to John Elderedge's Boot Camp.  That proved to be an impacting moment, so impacting that those guys brought the expedition home with them.  Now every year, those same guys take over a 100 guys on this journey.  It has personally impacted my life.

Aside from running an exploration business, Clark has made his real legacy in the Westside Harvest Market.  The recent Tulsa World article below tells it best. 

You are invited to come hear the wisdom, passion and hunger that burns in this guy. 

Click below to see the recent Tulsa World Article.